Blog
Notes on friendship, memory, male loneliness, and the tools that help you show up for the people who matter.
Introducing Date Mode — AI-Powered Dating Support in Mates and Sheilas
Mates and Sheilas isn't just for mates anymore. Date Mode brings AI-powered green and red flags, pre-date prep, and a personalised dating coach.
How to Actually Remember What Your Mates Tell You
Six weeks after my mate told me his mother was seriously ill, I had to fake remembering the conversation. That moment pushed me to build a system.
Dunbar's Circles Explained — Why You Can Only Maintain 5 Close Mates
I counted my close mates last year and got to four. That number used to bother me. Then I read Robin Dunbar's research and realised: four is exactly where I'm supposed to be.
Why We Built Mates and Sheilas
My wife remembered everything about our mates. When she passed away, I didn't just lose my partner — I lost the person who made everyone around us feel known. So I built a tool to fill the gap.
How AI Helps You Be a Better Mate
Artificial intelligence isn't just for work and productivity. Here's how AI-powered tools can help you keep up with your mates, remember what matters, and show up as the kind of mate you want to be.
Why Remembering Details About Your Mates Matters
We all want to be good mates, but life gets busy and details slip. Here's why those small details make the difference — and what you can do about it.